Is Supporting Your Children Unbiblical?

1 Timothy 5:8

New International Version (NIV)

⁸ Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 

http://www.cbmw.org/Resources/Book-Reviews/Fatherless-America-by-David-Blankenhorn

1 Timothy 5:8

Amplified Bible (AMP)

⁸If anyone fails to provide for his relatives, and especially for those of his own family, he has disowned the faith [by failing to accompany it with fruits] and is worse than an unbeliever [who performs his obligation in these matters].



http://www.christinyou.net/pages/government.html

Absent Parents & Left Behind Kids

Absent Parents and Left Behind Kids

By Judy H. Wright

"Why did my daddy leave?
Was it because I was a bad girl or he didn't love us anymore?"
Explaining the absent parent is never easy, but it is necessary. For children, their primary fear is of abandonment and loss of parental love. There may be a number of reasons that the family is no longer intact, if it ever was, but the child is looking for reassurance that it is not their fault and that they will be cared for.
Children's lives revolve around their family:
The family unit is all they have ever known and to hear that a parent or caregiver is no longer going to be there is very traumatic and almost unbelievable. They will jump to a number of conclusions, most of them wrong and blaming themselves, in an effort to find answers and just cope. In an effort to make sense of the situation, they may become clingy to the caregiver and think "If he left, maybe you will too."
Feelings of Abandonment and isolation:
No matter what other reactions children may demonstrate to the adults in their lives, almost all have a deep and pervasive sorrow and sadness about them. One of the best things you can do for your children is to allow them to express their grief. Prolonged crying and preoccupation with the lost relationship are normal responses. Parents and family frequently try to hide their own despair and disappointment from the children, but by talking with them about feelings and emotions, you can give them permission to open up and share.
Single parenting:
One out of every four American children lives in a single-parent home. While most single-parent homes are the result of divorce, many parents and grandparents are raising children alone for other reasons as well. Some may be alone due to the death of a spouse, military assignments, single parent adoption, incarceration, drug or alcohol abuse and a myriad of other reasons for a parent to be absent in the life of a child.
Put the children's needs first:
As an adult it is your responsibility to care for the children, both physically and emotionally. Recognize that a long period of grief and mourning are natural. A preschooler may regress in such things as toilet training or begin to have nightmares or new fears. School age children may be showing signs of anger, guilt and sadness. You may see a drop in school grades and activities. Teenagers may assume they will be forced into an adult role or not have money enough for his needs. No matter what the age, some children feel responsible for the absent parent and harbor dreams about making it all right again. If you can not work out problems by open communication and cooperation, do not hesitate to get professional help. Their self-esteem and future happiness may depend on it.
Family: Absent Parents
And Left Behind Kids
©2006 Judy H. Wright, Parent Educator
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Pointing Fingers and Placing Blame

I would like to clarify a situation that has been brought to my attention. I have been working with child support in Georgia since Jan. 10, 2010. We have been trying to locate my ex-husband but he has moved around a lot and has also been hiding behind different addresses. Earlier this week we got word that the case has been progressing through the system in Georgia. I have been expecting a backlash of emails and social network postings from him and his wife, but I was surprised. What did happen was a backlash at the wrong people. I feel the need to clarify who was involved in tracking down Steve.

I have been doing yearly background checks on him since he ducked out of California (our home state at the time) in 2009. Every year I run several different check on him and his household members in order to find vital information that child support needs in order to file the support case for our two children who will be 8 and 10 in just a few weeks. I have never asked Steve's family or Stephanie's family for address information, employer information or phone numbers. I have been able to get all this (ever changing) information on my own and all from states away.

To me to think of a blended family as having sides to pick from is beyond ridiculous. I have and always will see the girls family as my own no matter how many years go by that Steve and I have been divorced. My daughters are a connection to them that in my eyes will never be broken. Family is Family. I understand their view on wanting to keep in touch and be a part of his family. Family is Family. I would never try to come in the way of that relationship. To me NOTHING should ever come between family.

If there is blame for a guilty party it is the ones who caused the situation. By leaving the state and moving without notifying the court and by not paying the support payments in 3 years Steve has brought the blame down upon himself. It is unfortunate that he has made these choices and let them continue to a felony level. But I no longer feel bad for him. I feel sad that he has made choices that will affect them, but I did not make those choices. I will continue to stand by the decision to file for child support, because it is not for me. It is for my children and if dealing with child support for many years is part of the consequences of the divorce then so be it. All four children deserve to be supported and cared for by their Father.

Ridiculousness

Billy and I were contacted yesterday by the MTV clip show Ridiculousness. They saw one of our videos of Billy "teaching" Josie how to skateboard and want to use it for the show. I was not sure what the show was and looked it up. I was in tears all night laughing! It is like an adult version of Americas Funniest Home Videos. Some of the segments titles are hilarious! I can't wait to find out what segment they will be placing our video clip under. I think it may have something to do with being too old for something! I thought Billy would not want to have the video on TV but he was all excited! I am so glad to have a husband who has such a great sense of humor. He keeps me young and laughing!

http://www.mtv.com/videos/ridiculousness-episode-16/1669972/playlist.jhtml#series=2211&seriesId=36259&channelId=1

Specialist

In 2011 our daughter Margaret was diagnosed with Orthostatic Proteinuria. During her yearly check up in March of this year the doctor noticed that her levels of protein in her urine were elevated higher then her normal high level. Upon further testing over the span of two weeks we agreed that we should get her an appointment with a specialist. We saw her new specialist yesterday who seemed very knowledgeable about her condition. He ran more tests and took a look at her kidneys and bladder via ultrasound. So far her kidneys look healthy and are not suspected to be the cause of the Proteinuria. What was detected was that her bladder failed to empty after she had voided. This is a cause for concern and he gave us some different exercises and routines to help her with this elimination problem. She also will start on a new medication and a new nutritional plan. We will be following up with him again in 2 months to see if these changes have improved her ability to empty her bladder. Before this follow up she will be going in for another test called an IVP-KUB. At this time they may decided to do another test called a VCUG. I have linked some related articles.

Update: IVP-KUB has been moved up. We have it scheduled June 5 and 8:30 am. If we can wait this long...If she continues to keep getting more infections before the test we will be going in sooner. 

http://www.uptodate.com/contents/orthostatic-or-postural-proteinuria

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravenous_pyelogram

http://kidshealth.org/parent/system/medical/test_vcug.html